I felt so alone when Charlotte died. Finding websites, connecting with other mamas and realizing I wasn't the only lost one made those first few weeks - which are so awful as to be indescribable - bearable. I hope these resources help you, or someone you love, feel less alone and scared.
www.glowinthewoods.com - Absolute lifeline for me in the beginning. I love this page for including information about how to dry up milk when it comes in. Postpartum care and resources for women who have lost babies is seriously lacking.
www.facesofloss.com - A place for people to share their stories. Searchable database, by state, by situation, etc. I've made many friends through this site and connected with others who had similar situations to mine.
Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope also has an incredible resource page, a forum, and local support groups. There are TONS of ways to memorialize your child and the list provided is extensive:
The family and friends page is also very helpful:
www.mollybears.com - This site creates weighted bears for those who have lost children. I love my Charlotte bear and cuddle it often. The wait list is long, comfort won't be immediate, but the wait is worth it.
www.namesinthesand.blogspot.com - The wait list only pops up for twenty-four hours at a time so I recommend finding the facebook page as well (there is a link on this site) so you have a better chance of knowing when it opens up. Once you get on the list it doesn't take very long to have the name written as long as weather conditions are good. Be sure to check out the connected site www.thegriefeffect.blogspot.com too.
www.grieveoutloud.org - Another site with lots of helpful resources and links.
An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination by Elizabeth McCracken: Beautiful book, but she does talk about her second child.
They Were Stillborn: Personal Stories about Stillbirth by Janel C. Atlas: Just published in December. Haven't read it, but heard great things.
If stopping the milk supply is not right for you, let it dry up naturally, or donate to a milk bank. Below are three of the many options for milk donation.